Family Drama is Inevitable: Newlywed Stepmom Demands 16yo Stepdaughter Give Up Her Room!
When I was a kid in Miami. we had family come and visit. I grew up in a simple two bedroom/one bathroom home in a duplex.
It was my home.
When my aunt came, I had to share a bed with her. As a teen, I hated being uncomfortable in my own home, but I loved my aunt and it was temporary.
The next time, I was older and was in the honors program, I was studying until all hours, so I needed my space. I didn't share my room, and someone slept on the couch.
Sharing my room is temporary, but my parents were mindful about privacy and respect. If I had a problem, I could tell them. That was the relationship we had.
When you have a blended family, family drama is inevitable, especially when the word "entitlement" comes into the conversation.
When I read this reddit AITA post, it hit me on many levels. I shared it with my dad, and he had a few things to say.
Here's the story:
So I (f16) live with my dad since he and my mom split up and just recently he got married to Kelly. Kelly has a daughter (13) and a son (9) and they just moved in with us.
My dad and I house has four rooms the master bedroom has a bathroom inside of it and my room is just a little smaller but it also has a bathroom in the room too. Then there are the other two rooms that don’t have a bathroom but have walk-in closets, unlike mine.
All of the rooms have beds and dressers you know all the stuff that makes a room a room without the personal decorations that you choose.
So far, I'm loving the house.
When they came to move in her daughter ran straight past one of the vacant rooms and into mine. My walls are purple and I have Marvel and DC posters hanging up on the wall I also have a mirror attached to my dresser with lights around it. So once I showed her son to the room he would be sleeping in I went into my room and saw her bringing her stuff into my room and so I told her that this isn’t her room and that she has one of the rooms with no decorations.
Yeah, she thought that room was pre-decorated with her in mind. That's...ad--disturbing.
She immediately started flipping out she started yelling saying she was gonna tell her mom and my dad that I’m being mean to her and trying to bully her because she was younger.
Brat mode ACTIVATED! She was trying to lie about it too. Bullying because someone told her no. Oh, that manipulative little dear
Her mom and my dad came into the room due to all the yelling and asked what was going on and so I told them that she thinks my room is hers and she won’t leave but she said that this has to be her room because it’s her favorite color purple and it has a bathroom so it has to be hers.
My dad explained to her that she can get her room painted whatever color u want and we can get u the poster and pictures she wanted also but she said she doesn’t want a room that doesn’t have a bathroom so this one should be hers.
That word, 'should' It's a guilt-inducer...my question is "who said it should be yours?"
Her mom ended up agreeing with her saying that I have had this room for a very long time and can just restart in the other room and I should give it to her since she’s younger.
And this is where the hackles on my neck rose. This adult is saying that the girl who grew up in the house should give up the room because she's had it for a long time...make that make sense. The "entitlement syndrome" the 13yo child has, she gets it from her mother.
So I told her that I won’t give up my room because this has all my stuff and I’m comfortable in my room so her daughter will have to go to the other only available room.
GOOD FOR HER! OP stood up for herself and I am proud of her. Stand your ground!
She is saying that I’m being rude and mean to my new little sister and should be reasonable and give her my room and be the bigger person and act my age and not a little kid.
The bigger person would tell their 13-year-old child that just because she sees it and wants it doesn't mean she automatically gets it. The bigger person would be reasonable and not insult her 16-year-old stepdaughter by calling her names. This feels a little like Cinderella.
So am I the AH?
I think you can guess the answer to that question. Some redditors had some sage advice as well:
This is some awesome, forward-thinking advice.
It turns out that dad took OP to Home Depot and got her a new knob and lock. Imagine, you were living just fine in your house, and now your bedroom has to be locked from a potential intruder living in your home.
This is how family drama causes anxiety, people.
When you're a kid, you have barely a say in many things. You need parents to stand up for you and who listen to you, and thankfully, OP had that.
Update had it that Stepmom Kelly saw this and had a little tantrum of her own.
I wonder if Dad is having second thoughts...
What do you think about this situation?
Does it have Disney or Grimm written all over it?
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